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Just missed is also over.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

That applies in football. Either the ball is in. Or not. Points are only awarded if you have reached the target of 100%.<\/p>\n

Just missed the target?<\/h4>\n

It is only fatal if you transfer the football strategy to life - perhaps because you tend to be a perfectionist.<\/p>\n

You resolve to exercise \/ tidy up \/ pray \/ listen to a podcast every day for four weeks ...<\/p>\n

In the end, you only managed 28 training sessions instead of 28, and you blame yourself for not reaching your goal.<\/p>\n

Just missed - too bad<\/h4>\n

\"Just<\/em>I achieve many goals, but by no means all of them.<\/p>\n

One of the goals I set myself in November was to remove 500 small and large items from my ship because I crave more space.<\/p>\n

These include business cards from people I can no longer remember, pots and recipe cards that I never use, books that I won't read a second time or documents that I no longer need.<\/p>\n

On 31 December at midnight, 478 items had left my ship. Clearly, I had not reached 500.<\/p>\n

Today I went kayaking on the Spree. I had planned to cover a certain distance. As I rounded the bend just before my destination, I was met by strong gusts of wind, which drove my kayak into the middle of the river and almost capsized it.<\/p>\n

I briefly tried to fight the wind and waves, but then I turned back 100 metres before my self-imposed finish line.<\/p>\n

Close is still good<\/h4>\n

And now, have I failed?<\/p>\n

In both cases, I decided not to look at what I hadn't achieved - even though the perfectionist may well see it that way too.<\/p>\n

Instead, I decided to celebrate the successes I achieved. I sorted out 478 more items than if I hadn't set myself the goal.<\/p>\n

I almost made it to the finish with the kayak despite the strum.<\/p>\n

If you have not achieved your goals in the past, I recommend that you do so:<\/strong><\/p>\n

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  • Think about what prevented you from fully achieving your goal (For example, when setting my tidying goal, I didn't take into account that I was away for almost 14 days. When setting my sports goal, I didn't take into account that I lacked training for dealing with stormy water).<\/li>\n
  • Look what you have achieved.<\/li>\n
  • Be happy with yourself. Celebrate your successes<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    And yes, on 3 January the time had come: I had given away books and cards and sheets of wrapping paper and my list showed a proud 503!<\/p>\n

    If the impulse was helpful for you, then why not share it with a friend who finds it difficult when they don't achieve the goals they set themselves.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Knapp daneben ist auch vorbei. Das gilt im Fussball. Entweder der Ball ist drin. Oder eben nicht. Punkte gibt es nur, wenn man das Ziel 100% erreicht hat….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":10654,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_titles_title":"Knapp daneben ist auch nah dran","_seopress_titles_desc":"Knapp daneben ist auch vorbei. Das gilt im Fussball. Auch im Leben? Wie geht man - auch als Perfektionist - gut mit sich um, wenn man Ziele nicht erreicht hat? 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