I feel it again and again: what we carry around in our souls has an effect on our bodies. This can be seen in phrases such as \"It's getting on my stomach\", \"It's breathing down my neck\", \"It's making me sick\". Or even in expressions such as \"grief fat\" and \"worry lines\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It is better not to carry around any unnecessary ballast in your soul. This also makes life easier for the body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
An example from my life. One Saturday afternoon, I suddenly lost my energy, as if the plug had been pulled out of a hoover. A tired cough, that was it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I felt tired for a whole day and couldn't get myself to do anything, which is rather unusual for me. I'm a bundle of energy, usually full of ideas and vigour.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
After a while, I realised what had happened. I had hit my head hard on an iron girder in the low engine room of my ship. The night before, I had sat in the cold draught for (too) long. On Saturday morning, the day had got off to an unintentionally stressful start when a lamp fell into the Spree as soon as I got up and I quickly jumped in to pick it up again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Afterwards, instead of resting after an exhausting week of work and renovations, I first \"cleared the decks\" and tidied up intensively and with all my might. And last but not least, I ate a - probably too greasy - cr\u00eape in the afternoon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The result: my systems collapsed and reported tiredness, tension and nausea. After a day of recovery with enough sleep, a little massage, good soup and plenty of rest, I felt better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This experience reminded me anew of how strongly the body supports the soul - and that how we treat our body plays a key role in how we feel inside.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Body and soul<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The body and the soul are so closely interwoven that it is impossible to say where the body ends and the soul begins. When the body moves, it releases happiness hormones. These in turn make you feel better. If the soul is afraid, stress hormones are released. These lead to rapid, shallow breathing, tense muscles, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As a coach, I often meet people who want to work on inner issues - they want more motivation, purpose or satisfaction. In many cases, it makes sense to focus not only on the inner processes, but also on how the body is currently feeling. And whether it needs support to carry the soul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In my latest inspiration email, I presented three methods for tidying up the soul that are just as suitable for tidying up your surroundings as they are for tidying up your soul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I would now like to go into one of them in more detail:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Muck out: I tackle burdensome things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In the neighbourhood: I go through cupboards and drawers and sort out unnecessary things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In my soul: I deal with old burdens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Let go of burdens - What you can let go of<\/p>\n\n\n\n Letting go of the past<\/p>\n\n\n\n The past is past. Otherwise it wouldn't be called the past. But we spend an infinite amount of time in the past. We ruminate on situations and wish we had reacted differently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It is better to ask specific questions: How do I feel now when I think about the past? What do I need now?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sometimes you need comfort because something was really bad and difficult and is still weighing you down. Sometimes you need support to release patterns that have become ingrained in your soul. Sometimes you need encouragement to move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you can see more clearly what you need now, you can consider how you can get it, for example by asking people for support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Letting go of things beyond your control and worries<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jesus put it bluntly: There is no human being who can lengthen his life even by a millimetre by worrying. Shorten it, though. Those who constantly worry generally do not improve the situation. On the contrary. They spoil their mood. And others too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It is better to think concretely: Do I have any influence on the situation?<\/p>\n\n\n\n If the answer is \"no\", then brooding and worrying won't help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Then you can \"only\" hope and pray (which can be quite a lot).<\/p>\n\n\n\n But there are few things over which we have no influence at all. You have at least a tiny bit of influence on many things, such as whether the economy or the currency remains stable, whether global warming can be stopped or whether your children will grow up to be \"something decent\". Here you can make at least a small contribution through good work performance, environmentally friendly behaviour and intensive exchange.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If the answer is \"Yes, I have an influence (no matter how small) on the situation\", then think about how you can utilise this influence and possibly even increase it: What exactly does my influence look like? What could I do to improve the situation?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Then think about what you can do step by step - and do it. A small step that you take is worth 100 times more than a big step that you dream about. And by taking concrete steps, you increase your sphere of influence step by step.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Another creative way to deal with worries is to ask yourself:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Suppose a good God had placed this situation in my path out of love in order to train and encourage me. What could have been his intention? And what could I contribute so that the goal is achieved as soon as possible? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Letting go of people<\/p>\n\n\n\n We would like others to do what we want. That they treat and love us the way we want them to. But they don't always do that. We women in particular are often in the process of wanting to change and sanitise others (especially the men in our lives).<\/p>\n\n\n\n We ponder for them, consider whether, where and how they could change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ultimately, we do this to make ourselves feel better. We hope that their change will improve our lives. But often they have no interest in this - they are perfectly fine with the situation as it is. It's good for us too. Because we still have the opportunity to improve our lives. By thinking and acting differently. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It is better to recognise that you cannot change people. Everyone can only change themselves. Their thoughts, feelings and actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n However, if a certain change in the other person's behaviour is important to us, we are left with asking (see LEA 6).<\/p>\n\n\n\n Concrete description of the situation<\/p>\n\n\n\n Name your own feelings<\/p>\n\n\n\n Name your own needs<\/p>\n\n\n\n Specifically ask<\/p>\n\n\n\n If the other person decides not to fulfil your request, it has nothing to do with you - it has to do with them. Something else, a need of their own, is more important to them than fulfilling your request. That's okay. You don't fulfil everyone's needs either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What can comfort you: For every need you have, there are many different ways to fulfil it. If a person doesn't want to fulfil this need for you, then let them go. That's not the end of the story. Think creatively and specifically about what exactly you need and who or what else could fulfil this need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This creates inner space for you - and for the other person too. Thinking more creatively instead of expecting everything from one person or a few people can relax and take the pressure off your own soul and relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Muscles<\/p>\n\n\n\n When we are mentally tense, we also tense our muscles. The result is often tension. The countermeasure is simple: when we tense our muscles and then release them, we relax our muscles and our mind relaxes too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The doctor Edmund Jacobson developed a very simple countermeasure. By consciously tensing and then releasing the tension, individual muscle groups are loosened - and with the physical tension, the inner tension is also released (see also book and media tips).<\/p>\n\n\n\n I would be happy to accompany you here as a coach. You can book an individual coaching session to tackle a specific issue (LINK). Or, if you would like me to support you over a longer period of time, you can book a non-binding initial consultation so that we can see what suits you best.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Immer wieder sp\u00fcre ich es: Das, was wir in unserer Seele herumschleppen, wirkt sich auf unseren K\u00f6rper aus. Das zeigt sich in Redewendungen wie \u201eDas schl\u00e4gt mir auf…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":18121,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"none","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"Immer wieder sp\u00fcre ich es: Das, was wir in unserer Seele herumschleppen, wirkt sich auf unseren K\u00f6rper aus. 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