Role models<\/p>\n\n\n\n
People who show you how to live<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nobody is useless, he can still serve as a bad role model. -Paul Breitner<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u25a0 People learn from other people. When mum opens her mouth wide, the baby imitates her - the mirror neurons make sure of that. That's wonderful. As long as it goes well. And the people we are inspired by and imitate are happy and pleasant people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It is wonderful when the people who shaped your life - parents, teachers, youth leaders - were full of love, respect and appreciation. People who were warm-hearted, courageous and full of drive and who tackled life with confidence. Being moulded by such people makes it easier to go through life with strength. Anyone who has been lucky enough to have been moulded by such role models can be grateful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bad role models<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It becomes more difficult when we are moulded by people who themselves have lived a bit past life. This can happen involuntarily. You can't choose your parents. And sometimes you don't get it happily. Or you experience teachers and colleagues who are insecure, cold inside, full of envy and anything but appreciative.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Perhaps these people have experienced trauma themselves - such as the generation that experienced the Second World War and flight and expulsion. Or they may come from the generation of war children who never knew their fathers or only experienced parents who struggled to survive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It doesn't have to be so dramatic. Any difficult experience can lead to you closing down inside, developing defence mechanisms and no longer being able to let emotions get to you and express them properly. The children then suffer as a result. Often without realising it. They don't know any different. They lack a role model who shows them how to live a balanced life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Without good role models, it is harder to find successful ways to master life. Even if you've said to yourself a hundred times: \"I never want to be like my mum or dad!\", in the end you will be. After all, you have seen their behaviour for years and have been shaped by it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Look for role models<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If your own parents are only suitable as role models to a limited extent, you can look elsewhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Erich K\u00e4stner lived through the Nazi era. He saw how many of his fellow human beings denied their own values and standards in the face of massive intimidation by the Nazis. He was impressed by the people who showed civil courage in this situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He once said: \"With role models, it is unimportant whether it is (...) Mahatma Gandhi or Uncle Fritz from Braunschweig, if it is only a person who said or did what we hesitate to do at the given moment without batting an eyelid.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You discover role models when you look for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It is important to note that no role model can cover everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As an entrepreneur and author, I need different role models than in my private life. Professionally, I look for role models who have successfully started new things - and I want to learn from them how they did it. When the opportunity arises, I ask them what contributed to their success.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
One of my great role models is Coco Chanel. Coming from the poorest of backgrounds, she purposefully and strategically built up a company that still exists today. I can learn a lot from her about how to develop a company step by step. Her private life, on the other hand, with its many changing relationships, is not a role model for me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In my private life, I tend to look for people who radiate serenity, joie de vivre and inspiring spirituality and who live joyful relationships. I want to discover the secret of their quality of life. Fortunately, I have some of them in my environment, others I discover through biographies - I almost always have the biography of an interesting person lying next to my bed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Find your role models<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When looking for role models, you can first consider what exactly you want them for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What kind of person would you like to become?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In which areas are you reaching your limits and would you like to expand?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What do you find difficult? What patterns do you fall back into again and again?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once you have an answer, you can think about it further:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What should be in my life instead?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
More courage and confidence?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
More serenity?...<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you know exactly what you want, you can start looking specifically. Ask questions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Who could be a role model for me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Which people radiate what I want to develop?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Where and how can I learn from them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Who could I spend more time with so that something of him rubs off on me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As I said, it is important to have realistic expectations here. No one person can be a role model for everything. Anyone who expects that will inevitably be disappointed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I recommend that you look for different role models and life companions if necessary. Some for your personal life, others for your career, others for your partnership and family and perhaps someone for spirituality. If you find people who are happy to invest in you as mentors, that's wonderful. If not, it is certainly worth investing in a professional mentor, e.g. a coach or counsellor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It may be that these people are only suitable as role models and companions for a certain period of time. If at some point you realise that it no longer fits, you can be happy about your own development. And start looking again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Becoming a role model yourself<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You are always a role model when you do or can do something that still causes problems for someone else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
People who have never had problems are less suitable as role models. What are you supposed to learn from them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For me, Barack Obama is a role model in many ways. I am impressed that he gave up his career as a well-paid lawyer to work for social change in Chicago's slum areas. He wanted to work to improve conditions and was willing to pay for it. In this he is a role model for me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You also become a role model by overcoming difficulties. The psychotherapist Viktor Frankl developed many of his convictions in one of the most difficult places in the world and tested them for their suitability: in a concentration camp during the Nazi era.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It doesn't have to be that hard for you. But you can comfort yourself with the following thought every time you overcome a difficulty: I'm not just solving the problem for myself. If I have found a good way, then I can also enrich others with it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Of course, this is only possible if you make time and space for it. I want to pass on to other people something of what I have learnt myself. I do this through my blog, my books and articles. But also through personal conversations. One of my life principles is: \"There's always time for a cup of tea.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Of course I also have a lot of work. But if someone close to me needs advice and help, I always want to make space for them. A few minutes are always possible. If it helps - wonderful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If not, the tea was at least soothing. \u25a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tip:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Take some time right now to think about it:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In which area am I looking for a role model or a companion?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In which area could I be a role model or companion for others?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Book tip:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The World Changers series briefly and concisely introduces people who have made a difference in the world.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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