{"id":2044,"date":"2013-06-25T10:14:56","date_gmt":"2013-06-25T08:14:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kerstinpur.de\/?p=2044"},"modified":"2025-02-04T10:20:40","modified_gmt":"2025-02-04T09:20:40","slug":"making-decisions-with-foresight-without-manipulation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kerstinhack.de\/en\/mit-weitblick-entscheiden-ohne-manipulation\/","title":{"rendered":"Decide with foresight - without being manipulated"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"CIMG9616\"<\/a>We\u2019ve all been there: you make a decision, either on your own or with others \u2013 and a few days or weeks later, you realise that you\u2019re not happy with that decision, or even feel that you\u2019ve been manipulated. The reason for this may be a lack of focus.<\/p>\n

When making a decision, it is wise to keep the bigger picture in mind \u2013 all the factors that are important to it. There are two levels to this:<\/p>\n

General values \/ factors:<\/h3>\n

The values and principles that are generally important to us in life and which should play a universal role in all our decisions. It can be useful to identify the 5\u201310 most important values that influence almost all our decisions. And to bear in mind that other people have different values.<\/p>\n

Situation-specific values\/factors:<\/h3>\n

The aspects that are important in a particular situation.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s an example: A person is responsible for maintaining the railway station pictured above. They notice that the vegetation is beginning to overgrow the tracks.<\/p>\n

If, in addition to his general values and principles,<\/strong> If loyalty to his employer is one of the values that are particularly important to him, he won\u2019t find it difficult. However, if nature conservation is an extremely important value for him, he may find it a struggle to pull up the weeds. Another value might be efficiency \u2013 achieving a great deal quickly. Or thoroughness \u2013 doing everything as perfectly as possible.<\/p>\n

Depending on the situation<\/strong> The importance of safety for passengers might also be a factor \u2013 or aesthetics\u2026 or working efficiency, or green spaces.<\/p>\n

Depending on his own values, he will pull up plants with varying degrees of vigour.<\/p>\n

Wide view \/ Close-up<\/h3>\n

As well as general and specific values, focus also plays a part. Let\u2019s suppose the plants could talk. And say to the staff member: \u201eDon\u2019t be so cruel. We\u2019re so beautiful. It hurts us when you pull us out. That\u2019s mean.\u201c<\/p>\n

If he focuses on this one aspect \u2013 the plant\u2019s subjective well-being \u2013 he may decide to leave it where it is \u2013 and possibly regret it later \u2013 when he realises that he did not take into account other aspects that were important to him when deciding what to do.<\/p>\n

This often happens when people manipulate others, whether consciously or unconsciously. They draw attention to one<\/em><\/strong> For example, \u201eI feel so awful\u201c or \u201eThis bargain price is only available this week!\u201c In the end, you make the decision because of the one aspect<\/strong> \u2013 and feels bad about it. It\u2019s often only with hindsight that you realise you\u2019ve made a decision that wasn\u2019t entirely right. And you realise that other important aspects weren\u2019t taken into account.<\/p>\n

Different values \u2013 focusing on different aspects<\/h3>\n

When conflicts and arguments arise, it is usually the case that the parties involved are focusing on different aspects. For example, two people might be arguing about the best holiday destination \u2013 for one, relaxation and rest are important, whilst for the other, low costs and the chance to get online now and then are key. In situations like this, it helps to call a halt.<\/p>\n

Rather than continuing to put forward arguments as to why a secluded mountain hut or a youth hostel in the city is so great, it makes sense to be transparent about the factors on which the decision is based. That makes it easier to find a solution.<\/p>\n

Incidentally, you can also manipulate yourself. You might have a general desire to develop yourself further \u2013 and be saving money specifically to afford further training. Then you\u2019re walking down the high street and spot a great item of clothing at a special price. A real bargain. A steal. Then your \u201einner bargain hunter\u201c turns its attention to the special offer. And focuses solely on the price. The other values \u2013 spending money wisely, not owning anything unnecessary, personal development \u2013 are \u201etalked down\u201c or not mentioned at all \u2013 the one<\/em> This aspect is overemphasised.<\/p>\n

There are many decisions you make with complete confidence \u2013 and rather well. In such cases, there\u2019s no point in complicating matters unnecessarily. However, it is precisely in situations where decisions often leave a bitter aftertaste that it makes sense to choose carefully.<\/p>\n

Tips for making good decisions:<\/h3>\n

1. Draw up a general list of your own most important values \u2013 the ones that come into play in most of your decisions.<\/p>\n

2. Make a note of the factors that are important for the decision at hand.<\/p>\n

3. If someone tries to manipulate you, call a halt and say: \u201eI need a moment to take a step back and look at the bigger picture.\u201c<\/p>\n

4. Take a look at the whole picture \u2013 and all the factors involved \u2013 and then make a decision.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

\"MarcusBook tip<\/strong> For anyone who would like to explore the topic of decision-making in greater depth:<\/p>\n

Markus Splitt: Make a decision. Inspiration for making the right choice. <\/a><\/p>\n

Also as E-Book<\/a> available.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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