{"id":3421,"date":"2015-03-23T20:14:55","date_gmt":"2015-03-23T19:14:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kerstinpur.de\/?p=3421"},"modified":"2025-02-04T10:20:27","modified_gmt":"2025-02-04T09:20:27","slug":"am-i-a-real-man","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kerstinhack.de\/en\/bin-ich-ein-richtiger-mann\/","title":{"rendered":"Am I a real man?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"4<\/a>Am I a real man? Having dealt with princesses, queens and women's roles recently, I'm currently thinking about the question \u201eAm I a real man?\u201c - a question that deeply concerns some of the men around me.<\/p>\n

I found that surprising at first. I never really ask myself \u201eAm I a real woman?\u201c Maybe that's because I was a teenager. Yentl<\/em> have seen. A wonderful film with Barbara Streisand in the title role. She plays Yentl, a woman who finds clever, theological books far more exciting than cooking pots. I wouldn't recommend anyone to watch the film with me - I've heard the film music so often that I know all the songs almost by heart and love to sing along out loud - unfortunately not as well as Barbara Streisand...<\/p>\n

In the film, the clever but not particularly pretty, flat-chested Yentl is contrasted with another woman: Hadass with golden-brown curls, a lovely face and \u201eribbons and laces in all the right places\u201c. Yentl marvels at this woman and looks down on her at the same time: \u201eNo wonder she is pretty - what else should she be!\u201c (No wonder she is pretty - what else should she be?).<\/p>\n

The women get to know and appreciate each other. At the end, Yentl continues to look at Hadass and herself with fascination \u201eShe is the wonder of wonders...she is mother and lover and sister... she is woman...and so am I!<\/strong>\u201c (She is mother and sister and lover - she is the miracle of miracles - a woman and so am I!<\/strong>\u201c<\/p>\n

I am a publisher, an author, an artist of life, a protector and someone in need of protection, a strong and weak person, courageous and fearful, a leader and a learner. Sometimes in beautiful, soft flowing clothes. Sometimes in shapeless work clothes full of building dust and with broken fingernails. I can see different characteristics and roles: This is how being a woman can be lived. And differently too. Yentl made me realise that deeply. I haven't asked the question \u201eAm I a real woman?\u201c for decades. And I am very grateful for that.<\/p>\n

Am I a real man?<\/h3>\n

This question irritates me. Because if there are supposed to be real men, that implies that there are also fake men. What is a wrong man? From my point of view, there are only men (that is, people with an X and a Y chromosome. And there are non-men or women. People with two X chromosomes). Of the very few Intersex people<\/a> Apart from that, there are only men and women. Actually, you don't even have to ask the question. Because there are only real people... real men and real women. Obviously it's not that simple, because otherwise millions of men who are asking this question would have answered it long ago \u201eOh yes, there are no wrong men. Only men. So I am a man. A real man!\u201c<\/p>\n

Who gives the answer to the question \u201eAm I a real man?\u201c<\/h3>\n

When you ask yourself a question, you look for an answer. The only question is from whom you expect the answer. I can think of four options:<\/p>\n