{"id":5038,"date":"2010-12-08T16:17:20","date_gmt":"2010-12-08T16:17:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kerstinpur.de\/?p=638"},"modified":"2010-12-08T16:17:20","modified_gmt":"2010-12-08T16:17:20","slug":"die-vier-phasen-der-liebe","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kerstinhack.de\/en\/die-vier-phasen-der-liebe\/","title":{"rendered":"The four phases of love"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/kerstinhack.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/12\/Tag02_Segnenstattmeckern.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-639\" title=\"Tag02_Segnenstattmeckern\" src=\"https:\/\/kerstinhack.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/12\/Tag02_Segnenstattmeckern-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"Herz in der Hand\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a>Ein Freund erkl\u00e4rte mir neulich, dass jede Liebe durch vier Phasen geht (er hat das aus einem schlauen Buch).<\/p>\n<p>- <strong>Schlecht informierter Optimismus:<\/strong> die ber\u00fchmte rosarote Brille<br \/>\n- <strong>Gut informierter Pessimismus:<\/strong> Das unsanfte Erwachen auf dem harte Boden der Tatsachen<br \/>\n<strong>-Informierter Optimismus: <\/strong> : Gar so schlecht ist der andere nun doch wieder nicht<br \/>\n<strong>&#8211; Hoffnungsvoller Realismus: <\/strong> Man wei\u00df, was man am anderen hat und was auch nicht.<\/p>\n<p>Er erz\u00e4hlte mir, dass die viele Beziehungen den Sprung von Phase 1 nach Phase 2 nicht schaffen. Wenn der andere dann doch nicht so traumhaft ist, wie man dachte, gibt man auf und begibt sich erneut auf die Suche nach jemandem, der &#8222;besser&#8220; ist, besser zu einem passt, mehr Tr\u00e4ume erf\u00fcllt.<br \/>\nIch vermute mal, dass das nicht nur auf Liebesbeziehungen, sondern auch auf Freundschaften und sogar auf die Beziehung zu Gott zutrifft. Da h\u00e4ngt auch am Anfang der Himmel voller Geigen: Gott vergibt, Gott ist gut, ein wunderbarer Neuanfang im Leben und ganz viele neue, wunderbarer Geschwister.<br \/>\nBeim Weiterleben entdeckt man dann: Gott erf\u00fcllt nicht alle W\u00fcnsche und Tr\u00e4ume, manche Gebete werden anders oder nie erh\u00f6rt und die wunderbaren Geschwister haben auch die eine oder andere Schwachstelle&#8230;wie man selbst ja auch.<br \/>\nSchafft man es, durch diese Phase der Desilliusionierung hindurchzugehen, entdeckt man. Gott ist doch in allem gut. Die anderen haben &#8211; neben den Macken &#8211; auch viel Gutes. Und ja, es ist trotz allem, was vielleicht unerf\u00fcllt bleibt, doch auch sehr viel Grund zur Dankbarkeit und Hoffnung.<\/p>\n<p>Falls ihr noch ein bisschen leichte Kost \u00fcber die Liebe genie\u00dfen wollt, empfehle ich euch das, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=mhp4XKqtpYI\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">was Kinder in der Sendung mit der Maus zu Liebe sagen. <\/a><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"border: none; overflow: hidden; width: 450px; height: 35px;\" src=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/plugins\/like.php?href=http%3A%2F%2Fkersthackde.onpressidium.com%2Fallgemein%2Fdie-vier-phasen-der-liebe%2F&amp;layout=standard&amp;show_faces=false&amp;width=450&amp;action=like&amp;colorscheme=light&amp;height=35\" width=\"300\" height=\"150\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"><\/iframe><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ein Freund erkl\u00e4rte mir neulich, dass jede Liebe durch vier Phasen geht (er hat das aus einem schlauen Buch). &#8211; Schlecht informierter Optimismus: die ber\u00fchmte rosarote Brille &#8211;&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"Die vier Phasen der Liebe","_seopress_titles_desc":"Jede Liebe durch vier Phasen geht: Schlecht informierter Optimismus, Gut informierter Pessimismus, Informierter Optimismus, Hoffnungsvoller Realismus.","_seopress_robots_index":"","_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"_kad_post_classname":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[32,1],"tags":[431,139,135,432,433,434,435,436,437,438,439,440],"class_list":["post-5038","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-beziehung-naehe","category-leben-meistern-swing","tag-illusion","tag-liebe","tag-optimismus","tag-pessimismus","tag-phasen","tag-romantik","tag-romanze","tag-rosa-brille","tag-schmetterlinge-im-bauch","tag-traum","tag-traume","tag-wahrheit"],"featured_image_data":null,"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":32,"label":"Beziehung und N\u00e4he"},{"value":1,"label":"Leben meistern - 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