{"id":5065,"date":"2011-04-29T16:53:00","date_gmt":"2011-04-29T16:53:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kerstinpur.de\/?p=855"},"modified":"2025-02-04T10:20:46","modified_gmt":"2025-02-04T09:20:46","slug":"say-yes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kerstinhack.de\/en\/ja-sagen\/","title":{"rendered":"\"Say \"yes"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"In light of recent events:<\/p>\n

Saying \u2018yes\u2019 \u2013 accepting and supporting one another<\/h3>\n

Love is the decision to embrace a person in their entirety, whatever the details may be. \u2013 Otto Flake<\/p>\n

Millions of people from all over the world watched as Prince William of England and Catherine Middleton tied the knot in April 2011. What is it about these two letters (or, in English, five \u201eI will\u2019s\u201c) that they never fail to move people to tears at every wedding ceremony, and that millions of people want to see and hear them?.<\/p>\n

It is probably not so much the words themselves that move us, but what lies behind them. The commitment to accept the other person, to stand by them, to support them. The promise to be by their side through thick and thin and to strengthen one another.<\/p>\n

Everyone needs to hear others say, \u201eYes, I do \u2013 I want you. I accept you just as you are. I stand by you just as you are. I\u2019ll walk with you just as you are.\u201c And any love that is to last needs this very fundamental \u201eyes\u201c to one another. You accept the other person just as they are. Completely. They don\u2019t exist any other way. That \u2018yes\u2019 accepts reality. It doesn\u2019t mean you have to think every single one of your partner\u2019s traits is fantastic \u2013 that would be unrealistic. But hidden within that \u2018yes\u2019 lies the decision to stand by the other person.<\/p>\n

A genuine \u201eyes\u201c is unconditional. It is not dependent on circumstances, on health, illness, or on good times and bad. Rather, it is rooted in the decision to stand by the other person wholeheartedly.<\/p>\n

That \u201ebig\u201c \u201eyes\u201c can and should be renewed time and again if you want your love to last. Amidst the trials and tribulations of everyday life, you see many things in your partner that are more likely to elicit a \u201eno\u201c: one or two of their quirks. The toothpaste tube that\u2019s always left open, bad habits or a lack of empathy. Love begins to falter when you lose sight of the fact that that \u2018yes\u2019 is not based on your partner\u2019s perfection, but on your own decision to choose them in their entirety.<\/p>\n

Perhaps the \u201eI do\u201c at weddings moves us so deeply because it has something divine about it and reminds us that a faithful partner is offering us an eternal, unbreakable covenant for time and eternity. Not because we are perfect \u2013 we are all far from it \u2013 but because he loves us.<\/p>\n

A couple would do well to remind themselves time and again that saying \u201eyes\u201c to one another is not based on the other person\u2019s good behaviour, but on their own decision to stand by him or her. Such an unconditional \u201eyes\u201c forms the foundation of a lasting partnership \u2013 even if it is not always celebrated as lavishly as it was in England in 2011.<\/p>\n

The text is an unedited extract from my new book, *Love. Plain and Simple.*, which is due to be published in September.<\/p>\n

The first book in the series, *Prayer: Simple and Moving*, was recently published by Down to Earth Publishing House <\/a>Published in collaboration with SCM R. Brockhaus<\/p>\n

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