How to find clarity in your roles and thus peace of mind
The whole world is a stage.
- William Shakespear
Be clear about yourself
Let the next phase be your time of safety.
A time when you can be clear about yourself and what is important to you.
You know how it is - you are confident and assured at work, but when your father or a friend tells you "What do you look like?" Do you suddenly feel small and insecure? As if you were a little boy or a little girl.
That has to do with our roles.
Role change
We are constantly changing roles on the stage of our everyday lives. We adopt a different stance for each one in order to fulfil it appropriately.
Some roles are easier for us, seem to be tailor-made for us. Others are more difficult to realise and may need to be rehearsed.
Our temperament, inner attitude and the respective environment characterise the way in which we adopt and embody the corresponding positions.
In familiar everyday life, we are often not even aware of these professional or private role changes because we can switch between them quite naturally and flexibly.
To fulfil a role, you need a good mix of individuality and flexibility, i.e. adaptation to the respective situation.
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Conflicts due to role models
This can be stressful if the other person sees us in a different role than we do ourselves. We see ourselves as adults - our parents still see us as children, of course.
It can help if you become aware of these role models and the associated conflicts, for example by thinking about how the other person sees you.
Go ahead:
Slip into the mind of another person you know. Imagine you are them and see the world through their eyes.
Becoming confident in your own role - six tips
Finding your own role is not always easy. Here are six practical steps to help you:
- Know your role: Take time to understand what exactly your role is in a particular situation. Be it as a parent, as a team member or in another function. The better you know your role, the more clearly and confidently you can fulfil it.
- Set clear goals: Each role also has associated goals. In your role as a mother, you have different goals than in your role as a boss or employee. Think about what goals you want to achieve in your role. It may be about completing a specific task, strengthening a relationship or growing personally - clear goals give you direction and motivation.
- Educate yourself further: No matter what role you are in, there is always something new to learn. Use books, courses, workshops or even mentors to improve and develop your skills and become more confident and secure in your role.
- Reflect regularly: Take time to reflect on your experiences in your different roles. What went well? What could you improve? Reflection will help you recognise your strengths and address your weaknesses.
- Be patient with yourself: Safety in roles does not happen overnight. It is a constant process of learning and growing. So be patient with yourself and allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them.
- Treat yourself to coaching: If you feel insecure in certain roles, you can Coaching help you to find clarity, release old blockages and appear more confident and assured.
This time the text is partly mine, partly from the Quadro by Katharina Rogalla: Show attitude. Stand up for yourself.
She gives insightful and practical tips on how to develop a stable attitude in order to stand clearly in life.
The impulse booklet offers a good supplement to this Profile and the Quadro Develop profile.
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