How to increase your chances of achieving your goals with 3 steps ...
You are only as alone as you want to be. - Kerstin Hack
Have you set yourself a goal or made a resolution for 2021? Do you want to change?
If so, here's a tip: Formulate your goal as concretely as possible and then find a partner to accompany you.
This can be someone who pursues the goal together with you. Or someone who monitors you as you achieve your goal.
- You can do things together, e.g. sports or learning
- You can encourage each other
- You can regularly tell each other where you stand: Live or by text message
Tip for parents: If you have children, tell them your goal, for example that you want to go jogging every day or stop eating sweets between meals.
They will look after you like a watchdog, especially if you promise them a reward if they catch you not complying ;-)
Do you want to change? I will gladly go with you
Perhaps you don't have anyone to accompany you at the moment or are looking for someone professional. I can also accompany you on your journey as a "professional friend".
A single coaching session often unties many knots. I experience this frequently. You are welcome to find out more and book an individual coaching session.
But if you really want to change in one area of your life, it makes sense to have support for a while. This could be for a quarter, for example, with several coaching sessions and a few shorter interim check-ups.
What you gain
- You save money: Of course, coaching packages have their price, but they are cheaper than individual coaching sessions.
- You learn for life: The strategies you learn in coaching will accompany you throughout the rest of your life.
- You are making progress: Reflecting together, asking specific questions, talking and listening really helps.
Do you want to tackle a goal or a problem and would like some support?
Then write me your goal and the time frame you have in mind. I'll make you an offer and we can clarify whether it's right for you in a non-binding phone call.
It will also be possible to stay on board with me for a few days in order to tackle a topic more intensively - in compliance with the Corona rules - from February onwards. The ship is large enough and has a guest cabin.
People can be a great help when reflecting if they know how to do it. In "normal" conversations, it is usually the case that one person says what moves them and the other comments: "If I were you, I would do X." This is sometimes helpful, but not always.
Reflection differs from "normal" conversations primarily in that, on the one hand, you describe what you perceive:
- I can see that this makes you sad/happy/happy.
- I perceive that you are ...
On the other hand, a good aid to reflection is not to express one's own opinion straight away, but to help the other person to delve deeper into the topic by asking good questions.
- What exactly is on your mind? What exactly is the challenge?
- What has been helpful so far? What less so?
You can learn to ask good questions - the best way to do this is to be inspired by the "power questions" asked by coaching professionals.
Important: Clear demarcation of the reflection time
Suitable friends can be good reflection partners. As good reflection is as sharp as a scalpel, it is important to consciously ask permission if dissection is desired:
- I sense that you are very moved by this - may I ask you a few questions?
- I would like to support you in reflecting on this. Would you like that?
Conversely, you can also ask suitable people for reflection:
- Something moves me. Would you like to reflect on it with me?
I make sure to clearly mark the beginning and end of a reflection time.
A coach is...
- Target companion: He brings someone else (client, customer, coachee) safely to the Goal
- Carer: He coaches and trains athletes or a team, as well as managers, artists
- Sponsor: He accompanies clients to promote and develop their professional or personal potential.
The boundaries between coaching and therapeutic and counselling professions are, of course, as always, blurred. In coaching, too, you often experience healing, even though the focus of coaching is not therapeutic. And occasionally you also pass on specialist knowledge or training impulses.
But the core of coaching is to accompany and support people on their way to the desired goal. That is why one of the first questions in coaching is often: What do you want to be different at the end of this coaching programme than it is now? What goal do you want to achieve?
Coaches use many different tools specially developed for coaching.
Right now is another time when many people are alone.
Everything is much harder alone. Carrying things alone is hard. So is being happy alone.
For me, one of the comforting aspects of the Christmas story is that Mary was not alone.
Travelling heavily pregnant. No accommodation. An arbitrary state that messes up your life. All of this is hard.
She doesn't have to carry it alone. Joseph stands by her side.
Not being able to share suffering is hard. But sometimes it is almost more painful not to be able to share joy. Not having someone to cheer about a success or share in the joy of an unexpected gift.
Mary and Joseph were not alone there either. The angels, the shepherds, the wise men from the East - everyone rejoiced with them. Except for Herod. But that's another story.
I am single. But I'm not alone. I've made friends with people who cry and cheer with me.
And I sometimes pay for company. I have a physiotherapist who helps me stay fit - yes, sure, I could do gymnastics on my own. But it helps me.
I have a wife who coaches me in business because it's easier for me to discover weaknesses than if I struggle on my own.
And I will gladly accompany you and not leave you alone.
I offer you company in two ways so that you don't have to struggle alone.
LEO. Live strong as a lion.
This is my online life training. Once a month you will receive input via Zoom, once a question and answer session also via Zoom. Two lessons and, above all, a group of people who support you in your challenges and cheer with you about your successes. That's one of the best things, when everyone is happy with you.
Find out more about LEO here: https://down-to-earth.de/LEO/
Coaching and time-outs
If you are stuck on a problem, an hour of coaching may help you more quickly than weeks of brooding.
And if you need more time to develop new perspectives, you can also treat yourself to some time out on my boat.
Click on the links to find out more. Coaching: https://kerstinhack.de/coaching/ Time out: https://kerstinhack.de/auszeit-an-bord/
Tip: It's best to book time out as soon as possible before all the places are taken.
You can also give someone you like the gift of coaching or time out. We have designed beautiful vouchers that you can simply print out. https://down-to-earth.de/gutscheine-coaching/
The sentence I wrote above is perhaps provocative, but true: you are only as alone as you want to be.
Sometimes it costs something not to be alone: Overcoming, courage, reaching out to others, maybe even a monetary investment. But you don't have to be alone.
I wish you a happy and blessed Christmas and that you experience much joy and fellowship.
From the heart
