Close is also close
Just missed is also over.
That applies in football. Either the ball is in. Or not. Points are only awarded if you have reached the target of 100%.
Just missed the target?
It is only fatal if you transfer the football strategy to life - perhaps because you tend to be a perfectionist.
You resolve to exercise / tidy up / pray / listen to a podcast every day for four weeks ...
In the end, you only managed 28 training sessions instead of 28, and you blame yourself for not reaching your goal.
Just missed - too bad
I achieve many goals, but by no means all of them.
One of the goals I set myself in November was to remove 500 small and large items from my ship because I crave more space.
These include business cards from people I can no longer remember, pots and recipe cards that I never use, books that I won't read a second time or documents that I no longer need.
On 31 December at midnight, 478 items had left my ship. Clearly, I had not reached 500.
Today I went kayaking on the Spree. I had planned to cover a certain distance. As I rounded the bend just before my destination, I was met by strong gusts of wind, which drove my kayak into the middle of the river and almost capsized it.
I briefly tried to fight the wind and waves, but then I turned back 100 metres before my self-imposed finish line.
Close is still good
And now, have I failed?
In both cases, I decided not to look at what I hadn't achieved - even though the perfectionist may well see it that way too.
Instead, I decided to celebrate the successes I achieved. I sorted out 478 more items than if I hadn't set myself the goal.
I almost made it to the finish with the kayak despite the strum.
If you have not achieved your goals in the past, I recommend that you do so:
- Think about what prevented you from fully achieving your goal (For example, when setting my tidying goal, I didn't take into account that I was away for almost 14 days. When setting my sports goal, I didn't take into account that I lacked training for dealing with stormy water).
- Look what you have achieved.
- Be happy with yourself. Celebrate your successes
And yes, on 3 January the time had come: I had given away books and cards and sheets of wrapping paper and my list showed a proud 503!
If the impulse was helpful for you, then why not share it with a friend who finds it difficult when they don't achieve the goals they set themselves.
