Hello, darling, how was your day?
It is the questions that give rise to what remains. - Erich Kästner
"Hello, darling, how was your day?"
With this phrase is how many couples greet each other in the evening.
Nice, sweet and familiar. But perhaps a little boring in the long run.
At least for me as a As a single woman, I find it monotonous to always be asked the same thing.
I love Questions.
Good, varied questions.
Creating closeness through questions
I particularly like the 36 questions posed by the scientist Arthur Aron. He wanted to test whether questions can help to create lasting closeness create lasting closeness.
The astonishing result: Yes. And even more. The closeness and bond remained - even months months after the question time.
I have compiled the 36 questions in a free ebook. You can download it here download.
My tips for a special (Valentine's) day:
- Buy flowers for your loved one
- Find a nice place
- Take your time to answer the questions.
No romantic relationship in sight?
There's no one special in your life right now. No problem.
You can also ask friends the question. Or tell God in conversation how you would answer the questions. This is very deepening. I've tried it out!
Questions on paper
If you prefer analogue, you can download the Discovery questions get - an impulse booklet from me with over 100 profound questions.
My questions are not scientifically proven, but many people have told me that the questions have taught them things about each other that they have not experienced in decades.
"I was travelling with my 90-year-old father and often didn't know what to say to him. We've known each other for so long. I would disappear briefly before every meal, choose two or three questions and then ask him. We had wonderful conversations."
Rosemarie
A few questions to try out right away
The questions come from the Discovery questions
- What's the first thing that comes to mind when you think of your childhood?
- What's the best compliment you've ever received?
- Which of your strengths benefits other people the most?
- Imagine you were someone else? What would you envy most about yourself?
- Which person has influenced you the most and how?
I bet that a Valentine's Day with these questions will be remembered forever.
Now I have two questions for you:
- What did you experience with these questions?
- What are your favourite questions?
Please write to me about your experiences. I am very curious!
