The four key emotions for a strong life

How security, connectedness, pride and joy influence our lives

Joy, curiosity, surprise, disgust, shame: there are many different feelings and emotions. Some that feel pleasant and positive, such as joy, happiness and lightness. And others that we tend to avoid because we find them unpleasant, such as fear or anger.

There are four emotions in the whole abundance that are particularly important for a strong life. They give us particularly important strengthening hormones and make us feel strong, secure, connected and light.


Security - the basis for a fulfilled life

Security is like a blank resource that is crucial for many other aspects of our lives. 

Without security, much like without health, many things become more difficult. When we feel insecure, whether due to chaotic circumstances or acute threats, it is almost impossible to be relaxed and content.

If, on the other hand, we feel secure, the stress hormone cortisol in our body decreases - we feel lighter and more relaxed. In a world that seems increasingly uncertain, it is particularly important to feel safe. For example, by reminding yourself of everything that gives you security: your home, your skills, your muscles, your knowledge.

And it is important to consciously create security - be it through organised finances, good structures, protection against break-ins, sufficient resources or emergency precautions such as food and water. And, of course, by acquiring the skills you need to master life. 

Tips: 

  • Create a clear environment:  Disorganisation often makes us feel insecure, order leads to a feeling of security and the good feeling of having things largely under control. 
  • Create a security list: What already gives you security? Feel the strengthening feeling.
  • Preparation: Prepare for possible problems, such as power cuts. Make sure you have burglary protection and emergency precautions in your home. Create a more secure list: What could give me more security? Implement the points from the list one by one (the first one today if possible or very soon). In the online course Becoming crisis-proof you'll get lots of practical tips on how to build a safe home. 

Connectedness - it's easier together

We all know the feeling of having a problem spinning around in our heads without a solution and robbing us of our peace of mind. It is often not just the problem itself that burdens us, but the fact that we feel alone in the midst of the problem.

It's perfectly fine if you can't always find a solution yourself. They say it takes a whole village to raise a child. And sometimes it takes half a kindergarten to solve a problem.

That's why it's important to have people around you who can support you - be it emotionally or practically.

One example: Recently LEO live and the normal access to my ship via land was blocked. So I had to bring 10 people to me and only had a small boat whose engine wasn't working. I had exactly one day to solve the problem.
So I paddled my kayak towards Bauhaus, which is 1.5 kilometres away. After about 400 metres, it was clear that I didn't have enough strength to make it in time before the shop closed. So I played hitchhiker. A party boat took me in tow and brought me to the DIY store.
At LEO live, everyone got on and off the boat safely. I had found a solution - with the help of other people. I was extremely grateful. And also a little proud.
When looking for solutions, you can ask yourself: Who has already solved similar problems? Who can help me? Connecting with others can often make the difference and help us to stay calm even without an immediate solution.

Because when you feel connected, your body releases the "cuddle hormone" oxytocin - and that feels really good. And when we feel gratitude - a form of connection with the world, God or other people - it strengthens our basic trust in life. 

Tips: 

  • Plan meetings: Think about who you would like to meet up with again and make an appointment.
  • Create a favourite people list or pinboard: Which people mean a lot to you? 
  • Seek support from people who can help you emotionally or practically. Use services such as LEO to experience closeness and support.

Pride - a key to more self-confidence

Pride often has a bad reputation, especially when it turns into arrogance. This is because there are two types of pride. 

  • Arrogant pride: I am the best, the greatest and the most beautiful, better than others. You think you are better because of your own abilities, background or certain characteristics. Without having done anything for it.
    Arrogant pride separates us from others. We place ourselves above them. That is arrogance and arrogance.
  • Healthy pride: I have mastered a challenge.
    I have achieved something that has cost me strength and energy.

With healthy pride, most healthy people can rejoice with us: How nice that you managed to do that!  

Healthy pride in our own achievements is a positive emotion that strengthens and motivates us. Pride in what we have achieved releases testosterone (even in women!) and makes us feel better about ourselves. This gives us more emotional and even physical strength to master the next challenge. 

That's why healthy pride is one of the 4 key emotions for a successful life. Healthy pride releases testosterone in the body. This gives us strength for the next challenge.

Clearly, it is a hundred times more pleasant to feel healthy pride than to constantly feel inferior or think you are not good enough. 
With LEO, my online life trainingparticipants can learn how to build healthy self-confidence and experience it regularly. 

Tips: 

  • Success list or blackboard: List achievements that you are particularly proud of. If you want, you can even give yourself medals for special achievements. 
  • Review: If you have a bad day and feel bad because something didn't work out, take out your pride list and let it strengthen you. 
  • Courage: Do something that expands your skills and limits. Feel the pride! 

And: If you realise that you often feel ashamed and smaller or not entitled to feel healthy pride, then treat yourself to a Coaching. In one or two hours you can often release many blockages and develop a healthier attitude to life. 

Joy - the path to a better quality of life

Joy is one of the most important emotions for our well-being and the favourite emotion of many people. It promotes the release of serotonin, which not only makes us feel better, but also improves our cognitive abilities and sleep.

When we are in a good mood, our brain functions about 30% better than when we are in a bad mood! That alone could be a reason to let more joy into our lives.

Unfortunately, we perceive negative things twice as much as positive things. That's why - especially in a world in which we are literally flooded with negative news - it is important to consciously focus on what makes us happy. You can learn this through the webinar, for example: Become more positive. Discover the half-full glass.

We have little or no control over many circumstances or the weather. Nevertheless, we can make room for more joy in our lives. Small things like smiling or incorporating activities that bring us joy, such as a few minutes of singing or dancing, can work wonders in the midst of everyday life.

Tips for more fun:

  • Smile: Smile regularly to lift your mood.
  • Movement: Singing, dancing and movement bring joy. 
  • Community: Think about which people you can have a lot of fun with. And do something with them.  

Extra: Some resources for more fun

Security, solidarity, pride and joy are key elements for a fulfilling life. They have a significant impact on our well-being and quality of life. Through targeted measures and support, we can strengthen these elements and thus lead a stronger, happier life.

I have developed an online life training programme that strengthens the four key emotions: LEO. Live strong as a lion. At LEO, participants learn how to build a happy and balanced life step by step. 

Get in touch here to LEO or sign up for the waiting list if LEO is currently closed.

Your feedback:
Feel free to write in the comments which of the four key emotions you particularly enjoy experiencing and what your recipe for this is.

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